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What is a Perfect Gentleman?

 

A perfect gentleman is a man that is “gentle”. Not gentle as in weak or fragile, but gentle as in polite, caring. As it relates to women, women appreciate men who do things such as, open doors for them, pull out their chairs, carry their bags, and many other things that display politeness and care. Different women as well as men from various cultures will have various definitions and characteristics that describe what a perfect gentleman is. Every mentorship program has a mission and primary focus. Our mission and primary focus is to help boys grow into perfect gentlemen. 

 

 

 

 

Characteristics of a Perfect Gentleman                                                                                                                                               

 

• Respectful and polite (good manners).

• Maintains a positive attitude.  

• Knows the difference between arrogance and confidence.

• Enjoys helping others.

• Possesses the virtues of honesty, empathy, loyalty.

• Has an open minded (handles differences with others with respect).

• Has a good work ethic.

• Has good sportsmanship.

• Maintains overall cleanliness especially personal good hygiene.

• Maintains eye contact and a strong handshake.

• Has good communication skills.

• Leads by example.

• Is a man of his word.

• Is timely.

• Handles business well.

• Can navigate well with confidence and respect in different environments.

 

 

 Treats His Woman with Love and Respect

 

• Gives his woman flowers.

• Opens the door for his woman.

• Pulls out the chair for his woman.

• Communicates with his woman by listening to her and showing her understanding and support.

• Considers what his woman feels and needs.

• Provides for his woman and protects her without underestimating her.

• Never puts his hands on a woman and never calls his woman disrespectful names.

• Walks on the outside of the sidewalk while they walk on the inside.

• Walks in front of them going down the stairs and behind them going up the stairs.

• Carries their bags for them.

• Offers them his arm while walking together.

• Allows them to order their meal first when dining and pour their drink.

• Offers them their coat when it’s cold.

 

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Respect to Everyone

 

• A real gentleman is polite and kind to all people.

• It’s okay to disagree with others and still be respectful.

• Offensive words and a rude attitude shows immaturity.

 

 

Politeness and Manners

 

• Every gentleman uses greetings and polite phrases like “please”, “excuse me”, “thank you”, yes sir, yes ma’am, and speaks with the right tone.

•  Good table manners, uses his spoon or fork, not his hands, and to chews with his mouth closed. A man with good table manners is a characteristic of being a perfect gentleman.

• Waits his turn in the line.

• Doesn’t speak out of turn.

 

 

Helping Others

 

• Offers his seat to women, especially an elderly or pregnant woman.

• Carries groceries for an elderly lady.

• Shovels snow for an elderly neighbor.

• Help his parents with things that will make life easier for them.

 

Honesty

 

• Tells the truth. A true gentleman is not afraid to be honest and admits his faults.

• Doesn’t lie for friends.

• Doesn’t blame others for his actions.  A true gentleman is not afraid to be honest and admits his faults.

• Doesn’t hide mistakes or problems. Instead, he tries to come up with a solution to deal with it.

 

 

Foster Empathy

 

• Considers and understand how others feel. (Become a good friend, husband, and dad one day.)

• Is understanding, compassionate, responsive.

 

 

Acceptance & Open-mindedness

 

• Understands it’s okay for others to have different preferences than them, or is of a different race, or has a medical condition.

• Doesn’t judge or disrespect someone for their specific features.

 

 

A Man of His Word

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• Doesn’t make promises he knows he’s not going to keep.

• Honors, keeps his vows/promises.

 

 

Good Sportsmanship

 

• Understands it’s okay to lose as long as you know you did your best.

• Looks at losing moments as opportunities to learn and develop.

• When he wins, cherish the triumph but not brag about it in a mean and rude way.

• Shakes hands with opponents win he wins or loses.

 

 

Good Work Ethic

 

• Does his best, because he’s not satisfied with just getting by.

• Works hard, refuses to be lazy and leave his work for others to do. Pulls his own load.

• Sticks to an assignment until he completes it. Never gives up.

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